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Mistakes – We ALL Make them!

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We are spiritual beings having a human experience. I can’t take credit for that – I heard it from Reverend Deborah L. Johnson of Inner Light Church. Embracing that phrase gave me a whole new perspective on life. To err is human; to forgive, divine. I didn’t say that either; the English poet, Alexander Pope did.  

So many phrases spring to mind and although I can’t claim them, I will claim that they help me be me

Judge not, lest ye be judged.

Do unto others as you would have others do unto you.

Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.

What you think of me is none of my business.

None of these are my own words. You probably recognize them as they are famous quotes and may find their origins in the Bible or from other sources that quote the Bible. This is not about religion. It’s about being a good person. It’s about man’s inhumanity to man. It’s about recognizing that as humans, we make mistakes.

A friend, a dear friend, sent me an email complaining about something her husband did. It cost them money. He made a bad decision. He put a substantial amount of money in his pocket while on vacation in Europe. The cruise ship people had warned against this, but he did it anyway. He probably didn’t trust the cruise ship people to not steal the money from their cabin. Whatever the reason, a professional pickpocket managed to lift the cash. These people are good. You don’t feel a thing. Did the thief create a diversion? I don’t know. It doesn’t matter – the money was gone. It happens.

It happened to another friend of mine. He fell asleep while on a train in Europe. He had all his cash in a velcro pocket on the outside of his backpack. The pickpocket vultures watch for this sort of thing. It could happen to anybody. If you are not a thief, you don’t think like a thief. It’s the same as if you are an honest person, you think everybody else is honest. 

These things happen to the unsuspecting; especially the soft-hearted, like my sister. My sis was going to Costa Rica to visit family. We all warned her about the city of San José, Costa Rica where she would spend one night before heading out to Nosara on the Pacific coast by bus the next morning.

“Do not go out at night, alone. Put your money in different places – some in your wallet, some in your shoe, some in your bra,” I told her.

Did she listen? No! Did she get robbed? Yes! Did I get angry with her? No! She got mugged in a park near her hotel as she went for a stroll after dark. It could happen to anybody. A pathetic looking girl approached her and asked for a couple of bucks so she could buy a meal. My sister pulled out her wallet. Before she could open it to give her a handout, a man came from out of the bushes, grabbed the entire wallet and ran off with the pathetic-looking woman.

It happened. She lived through it. Some called her “Stupid.” Some understood that she is generous of heart and made a bad decision – a mistake – and would probably do it again. Her true nature is to be loving and generous. She will be taken advantage of by conniving criminals. It may happen again. I would rather be the person with the generous heart than the person who robs them. 

You may remember the story of me loaning a substantial amount of money to a “sister/friend” who was in trouble with the IRS. I took a cash advance of $25,000 to help her. She said she would go to prison if she didn’t pay, or she would commit suicide. I gave her the money which she promised would be paid back in two to five business days. That was in 2014. I’m still making minimum payments on that debt. 

What hurt more than the betrayal was a close family member telling me how stupid I was for giving her that money. Would I do it again? Yes, I would. If a trusted sister/friend came to me with that kind of problem and I was in a position to help, would I? Yes, I would. I stand by my values. 

As Maya Angelou said: “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

Does calling somebody Stupid help anything? No! Does saying that they did something stupid help? No! They already know that. Don’t make them feel worse. Hug them and move on.

We all make mistakes.

We are human.

13 thoughts on “Mistakes – We ALL Make them!

  1. Nicely said. Sounds like we’re all putting one foot in front of the other. I’m loving seeing that you’re writing again ❤️

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  2. As always, your generous, loving and compassionate words resonate deeply. It’s funny you mention that money today, I was thinking about you and it, just the other day…don’t ask me why…
    Big hugs sister BG!

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  3. My dear Friends thank goodness I never called him stupid — I know he is not, I fets sad that it happened. Your blog his is a lovely reminder of how easy it is do silly things. I used to work for a lawyer yet I signed a contract that I didn’t read. I just believed what they told me and now we are in financial trouble. I will get out of it eventually I am sure. Thanks Carole, see you soon.

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  4. So great to have you and your Capers back. This one is so true and reminds us all what wonderful woman you are with all the right principals! Lots of love, Norma

    Norma Opgrand Nopgrand@comline.com 949-351-6736

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  5. The very best of you! Your outlook and perspective on ALL our lives is remarkable. MJ said, and she is so right, that you have a ‘heart of gold’, could not agree with her more. I so love it that you are here again, even though I did not know you the ‘last time around’! However, did know you as a ‘sister friend’ Kano,1976, happy our ‘group is in place’ here.
    Love,
    Anne

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  6. This is a very heartfelt written piece of work. We never forget how we feel.. You are such a beautiful spirited person for giving all of us insight & understanding of lifes’ lessons & human foibles.. Thank goodness for your gift of intelligence & ability for sharing so many human experiences with you! The best! Thank you always!!!! From the bottom if all oyr hearts!

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